Think about a situation you are in at the moment that isn't working.
What do you want to change to make the situation work?
Are there barriers which are stopping you from making the changes?
How many of those barriers are real? I mean, really real?
Sometimes there are things which are genuine barriers to what we want to do. I want to sit watching Vincent Van Gogh paint, but he died decades before I was born. However, I can read his letters.
We often prevent ourselves from moving forward by believing that something is a barrier when in fact it is just something we have to deal with, something which is surmountable by changing our thinking.
Or changing other people's thinking, like those who ‘know’ you can’t be a world class athlete if you are ‘disabled’ - although try telling that to Ellie Simmonds, Hannah Cockcroft, Sarah Storey, Richard Whitehead, David Weir, Lee Pearson...
We can believe something is a barrier for several reasons.
It could be because:
- we haven't taken the time to think beyond the obvious. Have you brainstormed the issue? Have you thought of all the possible (and impossible/silly) solutions?
- you don't have a needed skill; but could you make a goal which would give you time to go away and learn the skill? Or learn 'on the job'?
- you 'know' you can't do something; like I have always known I can't do maths. Except that I could, once I changed my attitude.
- you don't have the materials; but even without the materials you want, you could still produce creative work like these people did.
- you think you don't have the time because you have a full time job. Although Philip Larkin wrote the majority of his published poetry whilst working full time as a university librarian. And L S Lowry created most of his artwork during his long career with the Pall Mall Property Company. And T S Eliot combined his writing with his influential publishing role at Faber and Faber. And Anthony Trollope produced about 20 novels and 5 non-fiction books during the 33 year career which took him from lowly clerk to a senior position in the Post Office (including introducing the red pillar box).
List all your perceived barriers to your goal. Take one barrier and work out how you can break through it. When you have got through that one (or if it is a long term one, like learning a new skill, got it started), look at the next one.
And before you know it, who knows what barriers you will have broken through.
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