Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.
I sometimes have clients coming to me and talking about their failures, the things they have tried which went wrong.
What they usually mean is that they tried something once, it didn't work out the way they expected, and so it was a failure or wrong.
The 'failure' comes from having an expectation and of that expectation not being met. It is an attitude which hits us all from time to time.
Perhaps we should take a leaf out of the scientists' book. Scientists never expect to ‘succeed’ the first time out. The steps for a scientific method are:
1. Ask a Question
2. Do Background Research
3. Construct a Hypothesis
4. Test Your Hypothesis by Doing an Experiment
5. Analyze Your Data and Draw a Conclusion
6. Accept the hypothesis or reject the hypothesis and go back to step 3.
The words ‘success’ and ‘failure’ are nowhere to be seen. The idea is to work through all the possibilities, learn from those which don’t work and eliminate them, and move on to the next one with a little bit more knowledge each time.
Don’t be so hard on yourself and expect 'success' every time. Just remember what Thomas Edison said: “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”
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