I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought;
and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.
Read a newspaper, listen to the news, chat with friends, listen to the little voice in your head. So often, what we hear or talk about is in the negative: the things which don't work, the trains which are late, the Government which isn't working... I'm sure most of us can easily add to the list and bring our spirits down or make us a seething mass of annoyance by the end of the day.
But what if we actually looked for things to be grateful for during the day?
Since the beginning of the year my friend, Sally Hindmarch of Partners with You, has been posting one thing a day for which she is grateful on her Facebook page. These have ranged from being grateful for a sunny day in London (yes, we have had one this year!), for her daughters, for being taken to the theatre as a child, for growing up in a free country, for soft toilet paper. Sometimes she has to think hard about her thing for the day, other days, she has 3 or 4 things.
In the same way, I have a small diary at the side of my bed and before I go to sleep, I write down a minimum of 3 things for which I am grateful. Like Sally, the subjects can be wide ranging. Like Sally, when I started doing this (about 3 years ago) I would sometimes struggle to think of something and other days, there would be a mass of things.
The point is that by making myself find something to be grateful for, I started looking at the day in a different way. Being grateful became a habit, a mindset. I also got into the habit of expressing my gratitude somewhere other than my notebook. I thanked people who made space for me on a crowded commuter train; those who retweeted my tweets; who sparked my imagination via their blogs or newsletters; who gave particularly good service in shops.
Through being open to feeling and expressing gratitude, I saw things in a more positive light and found that I felt happier. And the happier I felt, the more positive things and people I seemed to attract.
So, what do you have to be grateful for today? And who do you want to thank?
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