Whether you come from a council estate or a country estate,
your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude.
Many people regard me as a very confident person. There are a few areas where I still have the occasional wobble, but I definitely feel most confident when I am coaching or dancing the tango. But it wasn't always like that.
When I started dancing the tango 10 years ago, I had that lovely first flurry of enthusiasm where I was learning and had the permission to get it wrong. I felt a bit of a clumsy oaf occasionally when I trod on someone's toes, but hey, I was learning. The problem was when I had been dancing for a while, hit a plateau and lost my confidence. I felt that after all the classes I had attended, I should be doing better. I booked myself a private lesson which in my mind, I saw as a bit ‘make or break’ - I decided if it didn’t go well, I would just give up tango and walk away. Luckily, I had two really great teachers, Liz and Greg, who gave me some important pointers and I ended the class with a fabulous dance with Greg.
I didn’t get to be an expert dancer in that single class. I am not an expert dancer now, although I am becoming accomplished. But I know I can dance well enough to have fabulous evenings with some great dancing partners.
I didn’t walk away from the tango. (In fact in time, my confidence in the tango opened up the possibility of starting my own business.) I just recognised that as a dancer (and as a coach), I have something unique to offer. Not necessarily better, finer, more brilliant that anyone else, just unique to me.
To be confident, recognise your uniqueness, and open up all kinds of possibilities for yourself.