Perplexity is the beginning of knowledge.
As I often mention, my creative outlet is the Argentine Tango. Because I want to develop my dance skills and understanding, I still go to regular classes.
As someone who has been dancing for a while (but who still has lots to learn!), I often dance with people who are just on the beginning of their tango journey. I watch their frustrations as they try to get their heads around intention, changes of weight, dynamics, listening, double time and all the other factors which make tango so intriguing. They bemoan they fact they have, they think, two left feet, or despair that they will ever understand how to get a follower to follow. It is all just so confusing.
I try and reassure them that I was once in the same position, barely knowing my right foot from my left, perpetually looking down hoping to get clues from my partner’s feet as to what I should be doing and not being able to get around the dance floor without losing my balance. Then suddenly, it all started coming together. I didn’t wobble if I was balanced on one foot and I understood the signals when a leader wanted me to do an ocho. And most of the time, I didn’t notice the changes.
For those of you who drive a car, you will probably remember when you first started learning. When you got into the driving seat, you made sure you had your feet on the right pedals, and talked your way carefully through the mirror checks before releasing the handbrake and moving off. Now you do exactly the same, but it is almost an automatic reflex.
Coaching is a similar process. Clients come to me knowing they want to make a change but not knowing either how to do it or what the change is that they want to make. They have to give up the comfort of ‘knowing’ in order to question the where and who they want to be.
Almost anything you can think of attempting which is new will take you through a period of uncertainty, frustration and perplexity. But if you are committed to the outcome, holding your nerve and embracing the experience of not knowing can reap rewards and knowledge beyond your imagination. And as Helen Keller once said, "Knowledge is love and light and vision."
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