I want to live my life so that my nights are not full of regrets.
D. H. Lawrence
I recently came across an article from 2012. Compiled by a nurse who counselled them in their final days, it is the top five regrets of the dying.
It was a moving list:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
In a perfect world, we would all die of comfortable old age after a happy, full life. We would have had time to do all the things we want, to be all the things we want to be. But life is unpredictable. Sometimes, we don’t have the time we think we have. And sometimes, often, we let our fears hold us back. Fears of looking foolish, of the unknown, of what people will think, of not being good enough, of not knowing, of failure… But what can be a bigger failure than not living life, your only life, to the full?
Wherever you are in your life, I will ask you the same question that ends the article:
What's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
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