Negative Emotions Can Be Good For You
RSS Follow Become a Fan

Delivered by FeedBurner

Recent Posts

Take Five with Kate Enters
Take Five with Jon Jacob
Meet the Art World Experts
Christmas Greetings!
Take Five with Caroline Dale

Most Popular Posts

Take Five with Trina Dalziel
Take Five with Nina Farrell
Take Five with Alexandra Harley
Creatives Blocks - They Happen to Us All
Take Five with Claire Meredith


Advent Calendar
Take Five
Well being


February 2018
January 2018
December 2017
November 2017
October 2017
September 2017
August 2017
July 2017
June 2017
May 2017
April 2017
March 2017
February 2017
January 2017
December 2016
November 2016
October 2016
September 2016
August 2016
July 2016
June 2016
May 2016
April 2016
March 2016
February 2016
January 2016
December 2015
November 2015
October 2015
September 2015
August 2015
July 2015
June 2015
May 2015
April 2015
March 2015
February 2015
January 2015
December 2014
November 2014
October 2014
September 2014
August 2014
July 2014
June 2014
May 2014
April 2014
March 2014
February 2014
January 2014
December 2013
November 2013
October 2013
September 2013
August 2013
July 2013
June 2013
May 2013
April 2013
March 2013
February 2013
January 2013
December 2012
November 2012
October 2012
September 2012
August 2012
July 2012
June 2012
May 2012
April 2012
March 2012
February 2012
January 2012
December 2011
November 2011
October 2011
September 2011
August 2011
July 2011
June 2011
May 2011
April 2011
March 2011
February 2011
January 2011
December 2010
November 2010
October 2010

powered by

My Blog

Negative Emotions Can Be Good For You

Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; 
they're big, flashing signs that something needs to change.
Gretchen Rubin

I had a very interesting conversation recently with a fellow coach about positive and negative emotions which any human being encounters on a regular basis.  We were both slightly at odds with articles which tell you to strive for happiness and never give house room to negative emotions.

Now, I have written on this blog many a time about keeping a positive mindset, so you might think that I am being contradictory here, so let me be clear.

What I think is important is to cultivate a positive mindset as a ‘default’ as much as you can.  I believe it is also important to be able to identify what your emotions are at any given point so that you can, if you need to, change them or, crucially, use them.

For me, the key is to realise that your emotions are things which you can use for your own benefit, even (and perhaps even especially), the negative ones.  When you have a perceived negative emotion - anger, fear, sadness, disappointment - sometimes you just need to go through it in order to get to the next thing.  I have written before about getting really upset about a job I thought I hadn’t got but then using that upset to spur me into action.  Only last month, I wrote about how having to get around panic attacks (a type of fear) made me inventive and more productive.  Perhaps one of the best examples comes from Dame Judi Dench who uses stage fright (and at one point in her life, grief) as “petrol”, to create energy.  In all these cases, the emotion has become a tool to help.

The point is, we will all have things which happen in our lives which cause us grief, fear, sadness, anger... Don’t let the negative emotion take over and leave you powerless.  Always remember, you have the emotion - the emotion doesn’t have you.

If this has struck a chord with you and you want to find out if coaching will support you, check out how we could work together and get in touch.

0 Comments to Negative Emotions Can Be Good For You:

Comments RSS

Add a Comment

Your Name:
Email Address: (Required)
Make your text bigger, bold, italic and more with HTML tags. We'll show you how.
Post Comment