When I was a child, my Mum always wanted me to save some things 'for best'; the smartest clothes, the shiniest shoes, the best china, etc.
In some ways, there is some sense to this. If you are going for an important meeting or event, it is probably sensible to have a set of clothes that are smarter, tidier, than usual, as it is said it only takes 3 seconds to make a first impression. But hang on... I know plenty of times when people have met an important new connection in the most random of circumstances; having to share a table in a coffee shop, sitting next to them on a train, even on one occasion when trapped in a lift! So if you like wearing your best, smartest clothes and it makes you feel happy and confident to do so, why not wear them all the time and be ready for anything?
I have had the sad duty in the past of having to clear out the homes of friends and family who have died. It is always emotional and for me, one of the saddest things is finding something which has obviously been kept 'for best'. A pair of silk pyjamas, never worn and carefully wrapped in tissue paper with a lavendar bag to keep them smelling fresh; a piece of jewellery in its' velvet box only brought out of hiding for high days and holidays; a leather handbag in its' protective cloth sack, only used once and then stored away 'in case it gets spoilt'; a china mug still boxed to protect it from getting chipped.
Now, I am all for taking care of your favourite items and I am not suggesting flinging the silk pyjamas in the washing machine to take their chance in a hot wash, or wearing your family emeralds to go potholing. But I have had lovely clothes which I have kept and looked forward to wearing and when the 'right' moment came, they had been feasted on by moths, were out of style or were just too small. I had lost the joy of wearing them. (You can also view this from a financial aspect. If you buy a dress for £100 and you wear it once, it has cost you £100. If you wear it 20 times, it has cost you a fiver each time.)
Who knows what might be around the corner. And if using that bag, drinking out of your prettiest porcelain, wearing those silk PJs or rocking your wing tips lifts your mood and your heart, then enjoy! And when that awful moment comes when someone has to empty your home, let them delight in seeing a life fully lived and enjoyed.
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