Last week, I saw several people on social media talking about the fact that we had just had the longest day of the year. Aside from those who moaned that the days will now be getting shorter, the main source of bewilderment was that it seemed only five minutes since it was Christmas. It is the same sort of disbelief which you can experience when you hit a big birthday (one of those with a zero at the end), and you wonder where the last decade went.
When you are anticipating an event, like a holiday for example, it never seems to come and then suddenly, not only it is over but happen two weeks ago. This is often a sadness, but can also be a useful lesson, as summed up in the old proverb, "this too shall pass". When you are in a difficult situation, it would be naive of me to say that quoting this phrase will bring you instant happiness. However, I also won't dismiss it as a way of finding a small crumb of comfort at a time of stress.
Over the course of our lives, we all face issues such as the deaths of loved ones, redundancy, career stagnation, unhappy relationships, and other major life events. At the times they are happening, when we are in the emotional thick of them, we can feel that we will never be content or happy again. As time passes though, these things will still remain as important markers in our lives, but the deep distress of being in that exact moment recedes and we can find our equilibrium again.
"This too will pass" is not a cure all at times of upset and actually, sometimes, the best thing is to sit down and have a good cry. It can, though, be a reminder to yourself of a previous difficult time which you survived and came through, stronger than ever. It can be something to hold on to and give you hope for the longer term.
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