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Let Envy Help, Not Hinder

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When working with clients, an issue which often comes up is that of the things which block them from moving forward.  These can be a perceived lack of skills, confidence, ability, experience (fill in your own perceived block here.)

One thing which occasionally pops up its' head is envy.  This is an insidious emotion which is often subconsciously stoked by the world around us.  If you see a friend, colleague or celebrity with something you would like, it could be easy to brood on it and get eaten up with the, "why should they have that when I can't", sort of conversations.  For some people, this becomes a real 'thing' and they get so trapped in their thinking that it makes them unhappy and stops them progressing.

Now I am not saying don't look at what other people have (stuff, experiences, emotions) and desire the same.  However, be constructive about it and use the desire as a motivation.

If, for example, you are an artist working out of a corner of your kitchen and a visit a friend who has their own, fabulous studio, you could adopt the mentality of a petulant 4 year old and moan to yourself that “it's not fair”.  You could put a lot of energy into being hacked off and envious.

Or you could start looking at what it would take for you to have your own studio.  What would having the studio actually give you, both in the benefits and in the headaches?  Are the benefits worth making the effort in finding and funding the space?  What would it cost you? Would you be prepared to share? If you can't afford it now, how long would it take to build a studio fund? Could you take a part time job to fund it?  By when would you be selling enough work to finance it ongoingly?

Asking questions like this can help you to identify exactly what it is you want and what you are prepared to do to achieve it.  It can also make you realise that some things are in the realm of "wouldn't it be nice?", rather than "I must have this to achieve my goal."  And if you feel that it isn't worth the effort, you can just let all those negative feelings go and get on with the rest of your life.

Let envy be your motivator, not your block.


If this has struck a chord with you and you want to find out if coaching will support you, check out how we could work together and get in touch.

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