When people come to me for coaching, it is usually because they want something to change.
I know from my own experience when I first went to a coach I was desperate to change my career. My focus was very much on “running away” from my then current situation. It was a great place to begin. In fact, it was the only place to begin because I couldn’t see any other viewpoint. Importantly, it was a major motivation to get me moving, even though I didn’t know where I was going.
As the coaching progressed, my viewpoint was expanded and options became available to me. Suddenly I realised that instead of running away from, I was “running towards”. I still wasn’t entirely sure what the next part of my career would be, but there was excitement as much about the possibility as the actuality. It increased my motivation tenfold.
In a way, this was hardly surprising. When you are looking to change something in your life, you still have your mind in the past, in the situation that hasn’t been working. Running away from that will get you on the road. It can, though, almost feel that you are trying to run fast whilst continually looking over your shoulder.
Then there comes the point where you have moved far enough away and begin to see possibilities ahead of you. You change your focus to what’s ahead and suddenly, you can move much faster and with more intention. That intention will keep you going over sometimes rocky terrain until you have made the changes you want.
(Think of it like being in the wilderness and having to get away from a bear. To begin with, the only imperative is to get as far away from the bear, as fast as you can. Once that initial situation is over, you then look ahead to finding somewhere safe to hide so the same situation doesn’t occur.)
So if you are stuck and not sure what to run towards, don't let that stop you. What do you want to run away from?
If this has struck a chord with you and you want to find out if coaching will support you, check out how we could work together and get in touch.