During a recent coaching session, a client spoke of her "guilty" pleasure, which was watching “Eastenders”. She felt that instead of watching this, she "should" be reading, exercising, working, doing house work, anything other than sitting watching a soap on the television. Even though, she added, it was usually the only television she watched.
We established that she really enjoyed the programme and got extremely involved in the storyline. She loved that she had followed these families for years. She didn't use the programme as background, but sat engrossed in it. So why, I asked, should she feel so guilty about having half an hour a day (or on a busy week, a “box set” binge on a Sunday), which was entirely about enjoyment? Entirely about her enjoyment?
Life doesn't have to be about spending every moment striving for goals, having adventures or doing activities to fill a page turning biography. Certainly those things can give you pleasure and if you like doing them, then go for it!
But pleasure can also be in the simple things, like the regular appointment with “Eastenders”. Or it could be time spent getting nails done, having a massage, doing a crossword. And if you don't think you have a guilty pleasure, I often find it’s one of those things which when you mention it to other people, you immediately strive to justify: ”I have to look professional”; "I have a bad back”; ”I'm doing it to keep my mind working". Personally, I love an hour every week with a cup of tea and my feet up in front of "Holby City" - and I have no intention of becoming a doctor.
We work hard. We strive towards our achievements. We all have to battle through circumstances which can seem beyond our control. At some point, we all need to take some time out to just "enjoy" for the sake of enjoyment.
So what guilty pleasure will you be indulging in tonight?!
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