Have you ever been in that position when you know what you don’t want, but don’t know what you do want? You just know something needs to change.
I often work with people in this situation and something which comes up a lot is that they are frightened to make a change, in case they choose “the wrong thing”. They worry that the decision they make will be absolutely final and they won't be able to go back on it.
What I encourage them to do is to think of “the new thing” as a coat. Very few of us would buy a coat without trying it on, to check the fit, feel the fabric, etc.
When trying on a coat, you put on the first one and you like the length, but not the colour.
The next coat, you like the colour, but it’s too tight under the arms.
The next coat, you like the collar and buttons, but the sleeves are too long.
The next coat, the colour and length are great, but you don’t like the fabric.
And all the time you are trying on coats, you are getting more clear a picture of exactly what you want your coat to be like.
Now obviously, if you are looking to change careers, going through a lot of jobs in a short amount of time might not always look good on your CV, but you can try things in a voluntary capacity, or in a short course, or an evening class, for example.
The key is that you experiment and don’t feel that whatever you choose first is a lifelong commitment.
A decade ago, I was in that position of wanting a change in my career. I didn’t like what I was doing, but had no idea what other options I had.
I started drawing up a list of all the things I could do, all the things I wanted to do and all the things I never wanted to do again. Then I started experimenting.
Amongst other things, I signed up for a distance learning course in writing to find out if I was interested in, or could be, a journalist, a novelist, a playwright. Truth is that as much I like to write, none of these suited me.
I thought about photography and tried playing with a camera. I found I was a ‘snapper’, using a camera as a personal sketchbook rather than wanting to develop a style that people might want to buy or commission.
It was all very valuable and helped me to sift ideas and possibilities. When I worked with a coach, I was able to try out more ideas. After trying on a whole wardrobe of coats, setting up my own coaching practice fitted perfectly!
So which do you want to try first - the ankle length cashmere or the pea jacket?
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