How much time have you spent worrying about something you can’t change?
When I studied for my degree, in my late 30s, it was a pragmatic decision, to help me get the level of job I wanted in my scramble up the career ladder. My only goal was to successfully complete the course, with no thoughts of the level of degree (2:2, 2:1, etc.).
As I worked my way through the modules, getting extremely good marks for my essays, tutors muttered about me getting a 1st. It started me thinking that this might be possible, so I worked even harder.
When I received my results, I ended my degree with a solid 2:1.
My first reaction? Well, that’s 3 and a half years wasted.
And that stayed my reaction for a good few years, until l had a conversation with my then coach, who had seen that my attitude was a sticking point.
She asked what the point of studying had been for me, (to get a degree and a better job), and had I achieved that? (Yes, in both cases.)
Could I have worked any harder for it? No, I was doing the degree alongside a full time job and gave it all my spare time and energy.
And then she asked what for me were the two most important questions:
“What could you do now to change the result that happened then?”
Ummmmm… 10 years on, not a thing.
“What could you change?”
I could (and have) changed how I view it, celebrate the result and stop worrying about something over which I have no control.
What are you worrying about from your past which you can’t change? And how can you change your attitude and move on?
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