In the past couple of weeks, I have heard two very contrasting attitudes to birthdays.
On one side, a friend was pleased that he had managed to stretch his birthday over two weekends. At the other side of the scale, a younger client was bemoaning yet another candle on the cake, saying she did not celebrate birthdays anymore.
Personally, I am in the first camp. This is in part because I like any opportunity for a celebration. It is also because the birthday will happen whether I celebrate it or not, so why not try and make the best of it. (And on my recent 'significant' birthday, I can assure you I celebrated in style!)
And if you think birthdays are awful, consider the alternative. Whilst I have been lucky and most deaths personal to me have been ‘timely’ - in ripe old age, with long lives well lived - my best friend died at 44, my cousin and another good friend in their mid-forties. They thought they still had lots of potential, lots of time left when they could have been counting off the years, but they never got the chance.
I often use birthdays as milestones with clients. Looking 5 or 10 years ahead, or using the New Year are all useful markers. However, setting a goal to be reached by the next birthday, or one of the ‘big’ ones (with a 0 at the end of it), immediately creates a more personal timeframe.
It also means that when the birthday arrives, you have a double celebration, reaching the age and the goal.
So before you look in dread at the birthday on the horizon, think of one thing you would like to achieve, however big or small. Instead of hiding under a metaphorical duvet, use the unavoidable fact of your birthday as a tool to pull you forward to a day of happiness.