|Posted on 3 October, 2019 at 3:50|
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I have written previously about compliments and how we can be bad at accepting them, even though they are gifts.
Building on that, compliments are not just lovely things to receive. They are also very useful indicators of how people perceive us. We are often so full of chatter in our heads of what we think others are saying about us, that we miss the real messages. Or we disregard the compliment with our own negative thoughts. How often have you said to yourself," oh they are only saying that because...". Never mind the ”because”, just stay with "they are saying".
What are the attributes and skills people compliment you on most? Make a list and see what threads emerge. And if these are things people like most about you (otherwise why would they comment?), how can you make the most of them?
- If people always comment on the way you dress, can you use that to build your visual brand?
- If it is the loveliness of your voice, is your best method of contacting people by phone, podcast or public speaking?
- If it is your timekeeping, be at the person they know can always be relied on.
- If it is your sense of humour, can your website reflects that to engage people?
- If it is your energy, how can you use that to engage people in your goals?
Your examples maybe different and your imagination better at coming up with answers.
In the meantime, jot down every compliment you get, big or small. For professional and personal development, this information is a goldmine of possibility.